First off, I want to give much props to all the moms out there. Esp moms of 2+ more kids! I knew it was going to be tough but never did I imagine it was going to be this hard. (To all the moms with a +1 on the way, hehe don't worry, after the first few weeks it gets better!) Don't want to scare you guys, but you know how it was with my firstborn.
Lila went into a slight depression and had a major jealous streak once she realized Tabie was not just a visitor at our home. She came to visit me at the hospital, and once she saw me holding Tabie, it went downhill from there. She wouldn't dare come near me. I wondered if she thought she was being "replaced", and that just killed me. Let me tell you, I had some major emotional breakdowns.
It didn't help either with the pain of nursing. I look back and think of Lila's newborn days and realized she was an easy baby when it came to nursing and sleeping. It's the exact opposite with Tabie. When people told me nursing was worse than giving birth, I couldn't relate. Of course, I never wanted to admit that to those moms. They'd prob want to strangle me. But now I UNDERSTAND! The pain that came with nursing T was almost unbearable. I wanted to give up. I was very close to doing that until I went to St. Jude Wellness Center to see their Lactaction Consultant. T was not latching on properly. It was such a poor latch that I already formed two big blisters on my you know what. After a few days of just keeping at it and clenching my teeth, my blisters soon healed and bf became painless.
The sleep is another story. Lila was a eat and sleep kind of gal. Hardly ever woke up crying at night. Never made a peep. T on the otherhand loves to hear her own voice. She is still on Zantac for reflux, but it definitely is getting better. I've been on many forums to see what other parents say about grunting children in the wee hours of the morning, and they all say their children grow out of it around 2-4 months old. Crossing my fingers that I won't have to stay up from 3-6am any longer. I'll prob look back at this post when T's one year old and wish I back at this stage. They do grow up so fast. I can't believe she's already 7 weeks old!
As far as Lila's and Tabie's relationship goes, T is still caged in her area. Lila made huge progress though, and I can see that she understands when it's T's time to eat. It used to be a big deal when it came time for her feedings. I needed to make sure I had the remote handy, a new toy out (new doesn't mean "new" but it means that I've put away an old toy of hers and I'm bringing it back out after a week or so), or a snack at her side. Just thinking how it was during the first week and how it is now, it's a HUGE difference. A good difference. Slowly but surely they'll be bffs, right!?
See...
(getting ready to dogpile her till I intervened)
and the single shot of Tabitha...
Cooing has officially started!
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